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Ten key biblical guidelines for developing a loving, healthy marriage
- Think commitment for life – do not even entertain the thought of finding a way out of a difficult marriage relationship – remember marriage is founded upon a covenant to be faithful for life
- Pray together, and also find ways to encourage one another to keep growing in your relationship with Christ – the closer you both grow to Jesus, the closer and more fulfilled you will be in your relationship with one another
- Work hard in helping each another to obey your God-given roles – show mutual love, respect and submission for one another (see Ephesians 5:22-28,33; Colossians 3:18-19)
- Confess your sins and failings to one another, seeking forgiveness and reconciliation – forgive freely, refusing to hold grudges (Colossians 3:12-14), and a bitter spirit lest it grow up and spread its poison in your relationship (Hebrews 12:15)
- Do not hold on to negative thoughts towards your husband or wife – train yourself to see the positive, and to think positive thoughts concerning your life’s partner (Philippians 4:8)
- Be humble – keep repenting daily of self-centredness and pride – learn to hate these sins because of their potential to seriously harm, even destroy, a healthy and mutually satisfying marriage
- Esteem your partner in your heart – express your esteem through words of thanks, affirmation and praise
- Communicate your desires, needs and burdens openly and honestly to one another – listen sincerely to your partner’s concerns rather than just wanting to air your own
- Be romantic, disciplined and creative in your expressions of sexual intimacy and affection
- Serve one another by helping each other with daily chores, and if appropriate, also with work tasks – aim to partner together in your various tasks, activities and hobbies
- Have fun and laugh together
Graham & Frieda Roberts
Oct.9, 2006
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